Tee, I recently ended a longtime friendship with a friend and I am still so angry with her that I feel like I should just tell her secrets. Do you think that is a good idea or should I still keep her secrets?
I’m sorry that your friendship has ended. It is always sad when a relationship ends. Most people think ending a romantic relationship is harder than losing a friend but it is just as hard and sometimes harder. Your friend (true friend) is the person who knows the real you. They know all your secrets, dreams, desires, heartbreaks and a host of other things that you may not want anyone else to know. Now, that said would you want her to tell your secrets? Think about that before you do anything. You didn’t say why your friendship ended but I’m guessing that’s why you want revenge but is it worth it? Remember the best revenge is living well and letting karma do its job. Don’t waste the energy or time on getting back at her. Out of respect for those years when you were friends keep those secrets to yourself. Besides if you do tell she will know you are the one to reveal her secrets. Do you want that possible altercation or argument? As the legendary Bob Marley said, “Only your friends know your secrets, so only he could reveal it.”
I recently saw my friend’s boyfriend kissing another girl at the movies. Should I tell her? Now here’s the thing we’ve been friends for 5 years and we are the best of friends but I don’t know if I should tell her or not. What if she gets mad at me for telling her? I don’t know what to do. Help!
Megan, if this is really your best friend then you should not be afraid to tell her the truth. Some of the qualities of friendship, a true friendship, are honesty, and trust. If you have those in your friendship you should not worry too much or be afraid to tell her. In the past people had a tendency to “kill” the messenger but that is no longer the case.:) If you are telling the truth then you haven’t done anything wrong. There are some things to keep in mind though. She will be mad and maybe at you at first. Sometimes people get mad at the people they love because they know it’s safe to do so because that person will love them no matter what. There is also something else to consider. If this guy is cheating on her then there is a risk of her getting some type of sexually transmitted disease. Another thing is that he will definitely be mad at you as well so be prepared for that. They may break up or she may forgive him and he will always hold it against you which may ruin the friendship. If you do not tell her and she finds out later that you knew then will be mad at you. No matter what your friend will be upset. This will most likely be a true test of how strong your friendship is. If you really trust each other your friendship will survive this. This is just my opinion but you know the type of friendship that you have so ultimately it is up to you what to do because you have to live what happens if you tell or if you do not tell.