Which is More Important Honesty or Respect?

Gina:  Which is more important honesty or respect?



Tee:  They are both important and both are necessary in any relationship.  I would say honesty is more important. Why you say? Well you can respect someone and still lie to them but if you are honest then the truth will be revealed which includes whether or not the person respects you.  Remember how someone treats you tells you how they feel about you. It goes back to the old saying, “Action speaks louder than words.”  People can tell you “I love you” all the time but do they treat you like they love you? Words are just that, words; but actions?  Now that tells you the truth. That said, one should not use “being honest” as an excuse to deliberately hurt someone. 

Should I Tell?

Friendship, Göteborg, Sweden
Friendship, Göteborg, Sweden (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
Dear Tee, I recently saw my friend’s boyfriend kissing another girl at the movies. Should I tell her? Now here’s the thing we’ve been friends for 5 years and we are the best of friends but I don’t know if I should tell her or not. What if she gets mad at me for telling her? I don’t know what to do. Help! Megan G.   Tee: Megan, if this is really your best friend then you should not be afraid to tell her the truth.  Some of the qualities of friendship, a true friendship, are honesty, and trust.  If you have those in your friendship you should not worry too much or be afraid to tell her.  In the past people had a tendency to “kill” the messenger but that is no longer the case.:) If you are telling the truth then you haven’t done anything wrong.  There are some things to keep in mind though.  She will be mad and maybe at you at first.  Sometimes people get mad at the people they love because they know it’s safe to do so because that person will love them no matter what. There is also something else to consider. If this guy is cheating on her then there is a risk of her getting some type of sexually transmitted disease.  Another thing is that he will definitely be mad at you as well so be prepared for that.  They may break up or she may forgive him and he will always hold it against you which may ruin the friendship.  If you do not tell her and she finds out later that you knew then will be mad at you.   No matter what your friend will be upset.  This will most likely be a true test of how strong your friendship is.  If you really trust each other your friendship will survive this.  This is just my opinion but you know the type of friendship that you have so ultimately it is up to you what to do because you have to live what happens if you tell or if you do not tell.