Tee, I recently ended a longtime friendship with a friend and I am still so angry with her that I feel like I should reveal her secrets to other friends. Do you think that is a good idea or should I still keep her secrets?
Tee: Hi Camille, I’m sorry that your friendship has ended. It is always sad when a relationship ends. Most people think ending a romantic relationship is harder than losing a friend but it is just as hard and sometimes harder. Your friend (true friend) is the person who knows the real you. They know all your secrets, dreams, desires, heartbreaks and a host of other things that you may not want anyone else to know. Now, that said would you want her to tell your secrets? Think about that before you do anything. You didn’t say why your friendship ended but I’m guessing that’s why you want revenge but is it worth it? Remember the best revenge is living well and letting karma do its job. Don’t waste the energy or time on getting back at her. Out of respect for those years when you were friends keep those secrets to yourself. Besides if you do tell she will know you are the one to reveal her secrets. Do you want that possible altercation or argument? As the legendary Bob Marley said, “Only your friends know your secrets, so only he could reveal it.”