How do you keep a friend? Be one!

To keep a friend YOU must be one. Friendship like any relationship requires give and take.  You cannot expect your friend to always listen to you, give advice but you do not have time or interest in him or her. If you do not treat your friend the way you want to be treated then she will start to question if you are truly her friend. Your feelings are not the only ones that matter. Everyone gets stressed sometimes so pay attention and treat your friend with the respect and attention she deserves. Remember, “Love, Laughter and Trust are the Cornerstone of True friendship.” You cannot have a true friendship without those three components.   

Priorities May Vary!

Being friends with someone does not mean you have to love or like the same things all the time. You may have similar taste or you like the same things but over time people change. Their needs, wants, desires and priorities change. Your priorities may be different but that doesn’t mean you can’t be friends.  Life does and will change and everybody’s needs are different so don’t expect you will want the same things your friends do at the same time. Your definition of success may also differ but that’s ok too. Remember you may start on the same path but it is most likely that you will end up in different places.  Being a friend, a true friend, means being supportive even if you don’t understand what your friend is doing or have the same vision.

A Season, Reason or Lifetime?

It is OK to move on in life. Not everybody in your life is meant to be with you through all of life stages and become lifelong friends. There are those people who are there to teach you one thing or another and when their time is up acknowledge it and move on. It may hurt to let go but it’s ok. Mourn the loss but move on. Life is for the living. You do not have to keep toxic people in your life be it family or friends. You know what is best for YOU. Remember you only have one life to live even if you believe in reincarnation why not enjoy your current life? Friends for life is nice but make sure they have all the qualities of a true friend. The person you consider your best friend may and can change.   Related articles

Trust is a MUST!

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English: This is a Survive Logo with freak “S” (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
In order for your friendship to survive you must be able to trust each other.  A relationship without trust cannot survive. If you can’t trust your best friend then who can you trust?

Actions Tell All!

  Have you ever heard that heard that saying, “Actions speak louder than words”? Well believe it or not it is very true. If you are not sure about how someone truly feels about you watch their actions. Their behavior is the best clue. If something great happens to you and you tell your friend and all they can respond with is negativity then you know this person is really not your friend.  Your true friend will always be excited when good things happen for you. Pay close attention to their body language and how they speak to you. A true friend is not negative, condescending or rude to you. A true friend listens and is happy for you in words and deeds.

God’s Whispers of Love for Me

   
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Phlox subulata ‘Amazing Grace’ (Photo credit: Wikipedia)
By Icy B. George
It’s amazing!  I remember growing up always hearing the saying “if you want to know who your friends are, let something tragic happen to you” and wondering to myself, I have good friends that could never happen to me.  Boy was I ever wrong.  I have always taken pride of considering myself to be a good supportive friend, the one to sit at your side for a Dr. Appointment, cook your favorite meal when you’re sick, or even help you make funeral arrangements when you lose your loved one.  Call me, and I would be by your side.  I just thought that this is what good friends do automatically, boy was I wrong. Two years ago, I was in an accident that caused me to have to take some time off from work for about a year, requiring two surgeries.  I had never considered myself a needy person, but who I thought would call and even stop by to see how I was doing, never came.  This was a real wake up call for me, where I had to turn to the one true source that strengthen me, when all else failed me.  I turned to God!  I would pray and ask God to soften my heart to not hold anger or malice in my heart, for I was convinced that not everyone can love how I love, because they were never taught.  I learned to lower my expectations of people so I wouldn’t be disappointed.  Boy was I wrong! On my road to recovery, I had become very involved with the social media community, where I started writing inspirational blogs that caught the attention of a circle of beautiful people that would change my life, and became a great circle of support to me.  There was Grace, she was from the Bronx, attended the same high school, but we had never met, and that we had found so much in common.  Grace had found out that she had an aneurysm on her brain, and let me know how my affirmations saved her life.  Little did Grace know, calling me daily just to pray with me, saved my life.  Then there was Lydia, she was a Jewish lady from New Jersey, who loved to read my affirmations that I wrote daily.  Lydia would email me with the most beautiful prayers, and some exercise for me to try to strengthen my arm in between P.T. sessions.  And last but not least is Keiki from the Philippines, but lived in NYC on a student visa. Keiki would call me every day to see how I was feeling and keep my spirits up, emailed beautiful poetry, and the funniest jokes.  I love them each in ways no one else would understand.  You see God has a way of sending Angels to whisper words of love and wisdom, just at the point that you need it most.  Where I thought my “friends” would be there, they weren’t, and that is ok.  But what I have come to realize my friends where there all along. Three beautiful strangers that have become my closest dearest friends, and have given my life so much perspective.  I wouldn’t trade them for anything in the world.

Friend of the Year!

I’m so glad to have found this site. So often we have great friends but we do not get to show our appreciation of their friendship. I want to say thank you to my best friend Lisa for being the very best friend anyone could ask for. Lisa is the kind of friend everyone should have. She was there for me when my mom had a rare form of cancer and died. She listened to me when I had to vent and listened when I had no words. We laughed and cry together. When I feel depressed I can call her and tell her about it. We share our successes and failures with each other and we never judge each other. We are each other’s counselors.:)  She helps to keep me sane. We are like two peas in a pod. If you had a best friend award I would nominate her for one. Lisa Johnson, I love you like a sister. You are the very best friend anyone could ever ask for. Thank you for being my friend. — Jennifer S. Toronto