Tee: Of course you should say something. Her behavior shows a lack of respect for you. Also, you don’t know this guy. Your safety is important too. Sit her down and tell her how you feel. It is not ok for a strange man to be in the room with you especially without your approval. I understand you want to have a good relationship with your roommate but you have to feel comfortable and safe in your room and the only way to do this is to be honest with her.
This is my first year in college and my roommate has her boyfriend sleeping over but she never asked me if this is ok. So far we have been getting along but I am not comfortable with this guy in the room with me. Should I tell her? – Suzanne J.