How do you keep a friend? Be one!

To keep a friend YOU must be one. Friendship like any relationship requires give and take.  You cannot expect your friend to always listen to you, give advice but you do not have time or interest in him or her. If you do not treat your friend the way you want to be treated then she will start to question if you are truly her friend. Your feelings are not the only ones that matter. Everyone gets stressed sometimes so pay attention and treat your friend with the respect and attention she deserves. Remember, “Love, Laughter and Trust are the Cornerstone of True friendship.” You cannot have a true friendship without those three components.   

One Cool Mom

By Kelsey P.
You are nice
You are cool
You love us
And we love you too.

Mother‘s are cool
So are you
We have a great heart 
And you have one too.

You loved us from the start
And we love you too
No matter what I will always love you. 

Friendships Don’t Always Last Forever and that’s OK!

Sometimes we outgrow friendships and that’s ok.   Not all friendships last forever.  Don’t feel guilty if you no longer have anything in common with a friend.  If you feel that way he/she may feel the same way too.  Life sometimes takes you in different directions where you meet new people learn new things and your goals and values change.  While all these new experiences are happening to you, your friend is also having their own experiences.  This can lead to a disconnect and the feeling that you no longer have anything in common,  the friendship becomes strained and the friendship ends.   It’s ok to mourn the loss but also remember that growth is a part of life.  Wish your former friend well and move forward.  

Do you think your friendships will be forever? Let us know what you think!

What’s Your New Year’s Resolution?

Once again it’s that time of the year.  Time to make that new year’s resolution. The most common resolution of course is to work out more and lose weight.  Don’t forget to lose some of that emotional baggage that can also weigh a ton.  Resolve to love yourself more, have good people in your live and most importantly do what you want to do to be happy.

Are You a Friend Worth Having?

So many times people complain about their friends or wonder if their friend is a good friend but you have to look at yourself as well.  Are YOU a good friend? Remember that saying “to have a friend you have to be one?”  It is true.  Your friends cannot constantly give and give to you with nothing in return. If you are constantly taking from your friends without giving anything back then  you are what some consider an emotional vampire. Be an active listener, don’t just talk about yourself all the time. Any relationship must have give and take.  No one wants to feel drained everytime they are around you. Take responsibility for your own behavior.  It’s not always someone else’s fault.

Are you a convenience?

Don’t be a convenience to anyone!  You and your time are valuable all the time not just when someone needs you to fulfil their needs. You teach people how to treat you.  If they can call you anytime and you are always available or you are willing to cancel plans just to do what they want they are really not your friend. A true friendship requires both parties needs to  be met.  That means listening to each other and supporting each other.  A friendship requires give and take on both sides. [playbuzz-item url=”//www.playbuzz.com/michalshafrir11/how-perceptive-are-you”]  

Be a Friend in Deeds Not Just Words!

If your friend is in need of help don’t just say, “let me know if you need anything.” If you know she or he needs something just do it.  It doesn’t have to involve money because let’s face it times are hard and you may not have money to spare but if you can do something to help, like Nike said, “Just do it.” The saying “A friend in need is a friend in deed” is an undeniable fact.  Be a true friend and help YOUR friend. Helping someone is always the right thing to do.

Priorities May Vary!

Being friends with someone does not mean you have to love or like the same things all the time. You may have similar taste or you like the same things but over time people change. Their needs, wants, desires and priorities change. Your priorities may be different but that doesn’t mean you can’t be friends.  Life does and will change and everybody’s needs are different so don’t expect you will want the same things your friends do at the same time. Your definition of success may also differ but that’s ok too. Remember you may start on the same path but it is most likely that you will end up in different places.  Being a friend, a true friend, means being supportive even if you don’t understand what your friend is doing or have the same vision.

Get rid of toxic people and Move On!

It is OK to move on in life. Not everybody in your life is meant to be with you through all of life stages. There are those people who are there to teach you one thing or another and when their time is up acknowledge it and move on. It may hurt to let go but it’s ok. Mourn the loss but move on. Life is for the living. You do not have to keep toxic people reincarnation in your life be it family or friends. You know what is best for you. Remember you only have one life to live even if you believe in reincarnation why not enjoy your current life?

A Season, Reason or Lifetime?

It is OK to move on in life. Not everybody in your life is meant to be with you through all of life stages and become lifelong friends. There are those people who are there to teach you one thing or another and when their time is up acknowledge it and move on. It may hurt to let go but it’s ok. Mourn the loss but move on. Life is for the living. You do not have to keep toxic people in your life be it family or friends. You know what is best for YOU. Remember you only have one life to live even if you believe in reincarnation why not enjoy your current life? Friends for life is nice but make sure they have all the qualities of a true friend. The person you consider your best friend may and can change.   Related articles

Trust is a MUST!

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In order for your friendship to survive you must be able to trust each other.  A relationship without trust cannot survive. If you can’t trust your best friend then who can you trust?

Actions Tell All!

  Have you ever heard that heard that saying, “Actions speak louder than words”? Well believe it or not it is very true. If you are not sure about how someone truly feels about you watch their actions. Their behavior is the best clue. If something great happens to you and you tell your friend and all they can respond with is negativity then you know this person is really not your friend.  Your true friend will always be excited when good things happen for you. Pay close attention to their body language and how they speak to you. A true friend is not negative, condescending or rude to you. A true friend listens and is happy for you in words and deeds.

Listen to Your Friend!

Listen to what your friend is telling you.  You may not like what she has to say but if he/she is really your friend she is telling you the truth not just want you want to hear.  A true friend doesn’t just tell you what you want to hear.  She will tell you the truth, the good, the bad and the ugly.  Whether or not you choose to listen is up to you!

Be Your Own Best Friend!

Be your own best friend!  How can you be a friend to someone else if you can’t be a friend or be honest with yourself?  Even if you can’t be honest with anyone else be honest with yourself.  Learn how to be alone and not be lonely!  It may sound odd to some people but you can be alone and not be lonely.  The same way you can be in a room full of people and feel alone.  Learn how to enjoy being by yourself, love your own company. If you like YOU others will too!

Time Management

Take time to appreciate your friends. A simple phone call, or text saying “hello” or “how are you?” sometimes is enough.   Remember your friends have their own lives to live and even though everyone is busy it is important to make your friends know you care and you are thinking about and appreciate them.